Marta Rocha

A ciência do amor – 1

Sabe aquela sensação; aquele sentimento de saudade? É a dor que algo vital está faltando em sua vida. Você quer mais; mais significado, mais respeito, mais energia – mais alguma coisa. Saudade é aquela sensação de que algo no seu corpo está errado antes de você decidir que você está inquieto, só ou infeliz. Saudade não é um estado de espírito, é físico. Todo o seu corpo anseia por algum nutriente essencial que ele não está recebendo, que é bastante difícil de definir. Às vezes você pode entorpecer essa dor com um mergulho profundo no trabalho e na televisão. Na maioria das vezes, porém, essas e outras tentativas para preencher o vazio doloroso são distrações apenas temporárias. O que você está desejando é o amor.

O amor é o nutriente essencial que suas células anseiam: uma conexão positiva verdadeira com os outros seres humanos. O amor alimenta seu corpo de maneira que traz o equilíbrio certo como a luz sol e água nutrem as plantas e permitir-lhes florescer. Quanto mais você experimentá-lo, mais você vai abrir e crescer , tornando-se mais sábio e mais sintonizado , mais resistente e eficaz, mais feliz e mais saudável. Você cresce espiritualmente, torna-se mais capaz de ver, sentir e apreciar as interconexões profundas que o une aos outros. Assim como seu corpo foi projetado para extrair oxigênio da atmosfera da Terra e os nutrientes dos alimentos que ingere, o seu corpo foi projetado para amar.

The Laws of Love – 1

“The primary and main human instinct is neither sex nor aggression. It is to seek contact and comforting connection from another being.”  Sue Johnson
 

English psychiatrist, John Bowlby, was the first to give us an understanding of love. Bowlby suggested that all of us are designed to love a few others to keep us feeling safe and protected from birth until the time we die. Sue Johnson, in her book “Love Sense,” says that “although sex may push us to mate, it is love that guarantees our existence.” When we come into the world, our attachment system has been hard-wired to seek connection with another human being. If you watch a baby being born, you will notice the way the baby will reach out to connect to the person who has been carrying him or her for nine months. The brain attachment system moves us to pursue physical closeness and build interactions with a few of our closest people, beginning with our mother.

Reference: Johnson, S. M. (2013). Love sense: The revolutionary new science of romantic relationships.

5 Hot Date Night Ideas He’ll Love

Everyone knows that guys take girls out all the time on dates. However, in this modern society, it’s becoming socially acceptable for women to take their men out too. What is it that you do though with the man that you are spending time with getting to know? There are so many suggestions and ideas out there that sometimes it can get all too overwhelming. Here are some places to start that we hope will help!

1. Your man enjoys the craftier things in life… Craft beer that is.

If your man is like most and enjoys beer, you might want to see if he is into craft beers and IPA’s. You might even recommended going to a few of the local breweries around town and watch him light up. The other nice thing is there are generally a few bars or restaurants you can go to that have some really nice wine or appetizers that you could get to enjoy so you’re not left out!

2. Does your man scream and yell… as his team scores the winning point?

The one thing men can’t seem to get enough of is their sports. While this may seem the norm for some people, you would be surprised how many women floor their man by purchasing great floor seats to a basketball game, seats above the dugout, or right by the penalty box. Men like to see that you have the same interests as them so if you happen to like a sport he does, surprise him with tickets one day. Even better, ask if you can wear one of his jersey’s when you go to the game together, cheer extra loud for his team, and enjoy asking questions if […]

3 Steps You Must Take To Insure Your Marriage Is Alive And Healthy

I have learned that when couples get engaged, they spend most of their time and energy planning the wedding.  Frequently, forgetting to nurture their relationship now.   The focus tends to be in the future since it is exciting to look forward to marriage and dream of how wonderful life will be, but it is also important to be realistic and talk about some of your expectations.

Many married couples do not understand why the marriage did not turn out the way they expected.  Taking the time to look at your present relationship and your expectations for the future will insure that your marriage is based on solid principles.

Here are 3 steps you must take to keep your marriage alive and healthy:

1. Put your relationship first.  Right now you can say that you are putting your relationship first, however, life will hit you – children, career, sports, hobbies, friends, church activities will take your time and attention.  Couples need to consistently refocus and come back to each other and make time for the relationship.

2.  Commit to grow together.  To build a strong relationship it’s important that couples are committed to grow and change together.  When a couple is not truly committed, it is easier to give up when problems arise.  A commitment to growth goes beyond of “sticking together,” it’s a commitment to adapt to each other’s changing needs.

3. Work at staying close.  The key to a successful marriage is entering the marriage with the attitude that it takes work to stay close.  Many different activities will pull you away and it is important that when you find yourself overcommitted to pace yourself and say no when you need to.  When trying to make a decision, […]

12 Characteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics

Alcoholism, known as “alcohol dependence syndrome” is a disease that is characterized by craving, loss of control and physical dependence. Alcoholics, as well as being victims themselves, have an adverse impact on those with whom they associate. Research has shown that children of alcoholics develop some personalities traits that may impact their lives as an adult.

Here are 12 characteristics of adult children of alcoholics described by Woitiz (1988):

1.Adult children of alcoholics guess what normal behavior is.
2.Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
3.Adult children of alcoholics lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
4.Adult children of alcoholics judge themselves without mercy.
5.Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty having fun.
6.Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty with intimate relationships.
7.Adult children of alcoholics over-react to changes over which they have no control.
8.Adult children of alcoholics constantly seek approval and affirmation.
9.Adult children of alcoholics usually feel that they are different from other people.
10.Adult children of alcoholics are super responsible or super irresponsible.
11.Adult children of alcoholics are extremely loyal, even if in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
12.Adult children of alcoholics are impulsive.

Research shows that adult children of alcoholics are at risk at becoming alcoholics, abusing drugs, attempting or committing suicide.  Also, they may develop patterns of compulsive behavior such as overeating and other eating disorders. And adult children of alcoholics tend to marry alcoholics partners.

If you are an adult child of an alcoholic remember that you are not alone. Millions of people have grown up in families with alcohol-related problems. Because of the environment you grew up in, you had to develop certain skills in order to survive. Use these same skills today to improve your […]

What is truly important to you?

When was the last time you evaluated your list of priorities?  We live a fast paced life that sometimes we even forget why we have made certain choices.  This a picture of my brother and me.  This picture was taken when we were really young, but when I look at this picture I am reminded of what is truly important to me and that is my FAMILY.  At the end of the day it does not matter how much money I have in the bank, or what kind of car I drive, and if I am famous or not.  What it;s truly important is that I have friends and family that will always be there for me.  Every time I think about this I get a sense belonging and all anxiety and stress of my day simply goes away.
Follow me on Facebook.
Follow me on Twitter.
 

Welcome To Marta Rocha Blog

Hello!

My name is Marta Rocha, I am a Mental Health Counselor in Orlando, Fl and I am writing this blog to share with you information, tips and ideas on how you can make positive changes in your life.  Each one of us have the power to be and do anything we set our minds to and my goal is to give you some tools to find this power so that you can live your life to its fullest.

By |November 5th, 2010|Categories: Counseling, Marta Rocha||0 Comments