Divorce Care

Top 4 Reasons that Couples Divorce

As we move into the beginning of a new year, many couples make the difficult decision to divorce. Statistics show that the month of January has the highest number of divorce filings nationwide. So why is that?  During the holidays, emotions are running high. Many couples who are having marital problems try and stay together through the holidays either for the children or to see if being together as a family during this time can strengthen the bonds between them. If you are experiencing any of the problems listed below, it is time to consider a divorce.

 

 Your spouse is violent either physically or mentally toward you and/or your children. Violence should not be tolerated under any circumstance. Serial abusers will tell their victims that, “they can change” or “this will be the last time”, but too often that is not the case. If you are being abused, seek shelter and assistance from either family or a shelter.
Your spouse is in denial about a drug or alcohol abuse problem. If you spouse abuses either drugs or alcohol and doesn’t admit to the problem and the problems it is bringing to your family, you need to consider leaving. For some addicts, the realization that their spouse is leaving the relationship due to this problem can force them to admit they have a problem and seek help.
Your spouse is having an affair. Having an affair does not automatically mean the end to the marriage. However, if your spouse is ready to move on with the other person and has no intention of ending the affair, it is time for you to move on as well.
Your spouse is controlling your life. When you are talking on the […]

5 Tips To Help You Recover From A Divorce

Is there life after divorce?  And how is it that I deal with my ex if there is no trust?  These are just some of the questions that might be going through your mind if you are going through a separation or a divorce.  When you set up your wedding ceremony and said, “I do” no one was expecting a divorce.  We are told that people are to stay together forever.  So when divorce hits, it’s a shock.  Sometimes it comes slowly, or it could drag for years.  And it may feel at times that you are going through an emotional roller coaster.  Divorce is a loss of the hopes, dreams, expectations, and beliefs the couple had shared and created together. Allow yourself to work through the stages of grief, assess the emotional damage, and get support from friends and family.

Here are some tips to guide through the process of divorce recovery.

Start grieving.  Divorce is like a death.  When a couple is torn apart for many different reasons, the relationship dies.  This loss is very similar to the passing of a loved one.  Even when you are still angry with your ex, you will miss the intimate relationship and the life you once had.  Don’t avoid the feelings of grief; these emotions are normal and you are not alone – others are experiencing similar problems. Divorce recovery will take time, so don’t expect your emotions to stabilize right away.  Take it step-by-step, day-by-day.
Work through the anger and learn to forgive. The anger, disappointment, and pain of divorce can remain with you long after you signed the divorce papers.  The anger you may hold inside you will become bitterness, and bitterness can actually shape your personality […]

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