Have you noticed changes in your partner? Have they withdrawn from activities they use to enjoy? Have their sleep patterns changed? Do they often feel sad, down or empty? If your partner is experiencing one or more of these symptoms, they may be suffering from depression.


Symptoms of depression vary from person to person. They may include one or several of the following:

  • Feeling tired all the time
  • Changes in sleep patterns – sleeping more or less
  • Withdrawing from social activities
  • Irritability
  • Loss of interest in food, exercise and sex
  • Thoughts of suicide

We all have a bad day now and then. We may feel down, want to stay in bed, or simply want to be alone.  So how can you tell if your partner is just “having a bad day” or if they are suffering from depression? A person suffering from depression will be experiencing more than one of these symptoms on an ongoing basis (at least 1 week). These symptoms will also be impacting their ability to function on a daily basis. The CDC’s latest studies show that 1 in 10 Americans report feeling depressed. If you think that your partner is depressed, here’s what you can do to help.

Be There – Let your partner know that you are there for them. Tell them that you love them and will help them through this.

Listen – When your partner wants to talk about what they are feeling and what they are going through, listen to them. Don’t judge.

Educate Yourself – Do your research on depression. Find out the symptoms, the triggers and the possible treatments. Depression can be misunderstood as a “loss of love” for a partner since they are unhappy and withdrawing from activities. In some cases, undiagnosed depression can even lead to divorce.

Seek Help – Reach out to a professional to help you both deal with this condition. Offer to make the appointment, drive them to the appointment and even to go together.

Don’t forget that depression is a medical condition. Help your partner to seek and receive treatment. If will benefit, your partner, yourself and your relationship.

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Marta Rocha

About the Author: Marta Rocha is a Mental Health Counselor. Marta is fluent in Portuguese, Spanish and English. Marta Rocha is specialized in the areas of Marriage Counseling, Family Issues, Stress Management, Leadership Training, Anxiety, Depression, Sports Psychology, Grief, and Substance Abuse & Addictions. Marta Rocha has 12 years of experience in sales & marketing, advertising, promotions, management, and professional development. Her professional affiliations are with the American Counseling Association, and the American Association of Christian Counselors.

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