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So many people begin a relationship with someone based on several different factors. These factors include things from looks, smarts, finances, to the emotional connection that is established. However, what do you do when you become intimate and the relationship lacks an emotional connection at that point?

When you begin to have an intimate relationship there needs to be some sort of emotional connection. If you lack that connection you can almost be guaranteed it won’t be a fruitful relationship. It turns from being a potential positive relationship to one that becomes disconnected, and possibly hurtful. The connection that is developed with that of emotion creates a deeper and more intimate bond than that of no emotion.

Intimacy then becomes a chore, and it becomes repetitive. It becomes something that is loathed or not looked at with interest or excitement. A relationship that doesn’t have the emotional connection becomes so cold that each party may begin to feel guilty for being in that relationship. As times progresses, this could lead to more damage to each party involved as the lack of emotional commitment could lead to lying, cheating, hiding things, addictions, and so much more. The lack of emotion creates a distance that can easily tear a relationship apart.

Make sure that when you are in a relationship, that you are emotionally connected with someone. Have that bond that creates excitement and happiness and makes you want to jump your partner when they walk in the door. Take those times during the week to spend time getting to know your partner and make those moments about what makes the other person tick. Find out what your partners fantasies are, what they want to try, and make some suggestions to satisfy your emotional needs in the bedroom as well. Don’t let your partner constantly take over; make it something you both partake in. If one is more submissive than the other, it could be damaging to the relationship. Talk about things, learn together, and see what new adventures your relationship can go on.

When you have the passionate and emotional connection that is strong and pure, your intimate life will truly bring more to the relationship than you could have ever imagined. If you are physically, mentally, and emotionally connected, you will have the most incredible relationship. Cuddle when you are finished being intimate, kiss when you’re in the same space, remember those small little thing that your partner likes and connect with each other. Sometimes, an emotional connection can include letting your partner vent about the day and giving them sound advice, or when a partner is having a great and joyous moment and you partake in celebrating with them.

Whatever you do in your relationship, make sure that the emotional stand-point of the relationship is solid and stands firm and creates an equal balance to the physical and mental aspect as well. Keeping each segment of your relationship balanced will lead to healthy, and maybe spontaneous, intimacy.

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Marta Rocha

About the Author: Marta Rocha is a Mental Health Counselor. Marta is fluent in Portuguese, Spanish and English. Marta Rocha is specialized in the areas of Marriage Counseling, Family Issues, Stress Management, Leadership Training, Anxiety, Depression, Sports Psychology, Grief, and Substance Abuse & Addictions. Marta Rocha has 12 years of experience in sales & marketing, advertising, promotions, management, and professional development. Her professional affiliations are with the American Counseling Association, and the American Association of Christian Counselors.

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