With the death of South African model Reeva Steenkamp, this puts a light on the fact that there are situations out there that many women may be in, and need help. Whether Oscar Pistorious meant to murder his girlfriend, or truly thought it was an intruder, may never be known. However, when faced with this situation, you have to think what type of relationship it may have been and if it was possibly an abusive relationship. How do you know if you are in an abusive relationship? Here are some things to look for:
1. If someone is extremely controlling or jealous, this could be a potential problem. Wanting to know where you are, whom you are with, what you are doing every time you talk to them or making you ask permission to do anything is not a good sign.
2. When someone does not assume responsibility or own up for any mistakes, yet blames it on others, you could be facing a problem. They will tell you how you have made them frustrated or how you could have made the situation better instead of owning up on the problems.
3. As your friends and family begin to fade away and your time with them becomes less and less, you slowly get isolated from the real world. This is a control tactic to make sure you are under their control at any point and time. One wrong move, and it could go very bad.
4. Do not get involved with someone who has a background of hurting someone physically, mentally, or enjoys threatening violence on anyone or anything. These right here are clear warning signs.
5. Mood swings; verbal abuse, and inflicting pain are some of the other things to watch out for. If suddenly when you go out and their mood shifts from happy to angry, be wary as this could turn into a sudden verbal attack leading to possible physical altercations.
You always want to know that you do have the option to get out of this type of relationship. Just because you are currently with someone who is abusive does not mean that you have to stay with him or her. Reach out to your family, friends, pastor, counselor, or if you have to even the police. No one should ever be kept in this type of situation. There are alternatives to what you are experiencing and your number one priority should be to remain safe at all times. You are worth so much more than the abuse you may experience.
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