Is Facebook flirting harmless?  Should you be Facebook friends with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend?  Is the reconnection to the past actually harming your relationship?

Facebook was designed to help people stay connected with one another.  When people accept you as a Facebook friend, that is their way of say, “Hey, I care!”  Mark Zuckerberg, co-founder of Facebook, said that when he created Facebook with his friends, they wanted to create a world that was open, where they would be able to share information about themselves, and see information about their friends as well.  And that’s how it is!  Today we have access to very close, intimate, personal information about our friends. We get to see them having fun, see their pictures, share moments, comment on their posts, and so on. Facebook has really changed the dynamics of relationship!


Here are some interesting statistics about Facebook:


  • By February of 2010 they had 400 million users
  • Average user has 130 friends


Is Facebook getting a bad “rap?”  Is Facebook to blame for the break ups and divorces?

  • The reality is that there have been a lot of breaks up and it all has started on Facebook.
  • In 2010, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reported Twenty percent of divorces involve Facebook and 80 percent of divorce lawyers have reported a spike in the number of cases that use social media for evidence.



Although Facebook has been seen as a problem for couples, it can actually be a great tool to connect and interact with your partner.  Here is how you can use Facebook to improve your relationship:


1. Set Your Relationship Status:  because this is one of the first pieces of information your friends will see, setting your status is one of the most important things you should share. Setting your relationship will certainly make your partner feel more secure about the relationship.


2. Validate Your Relationship On Your Posts: complement your partner through your status updates. Proclaim your love for your partner by sharing the wonderful things he or she does for you on a regular basis. You and your partner will benefit as he or she is reminded of your love.


3. Engage With Your Partner Through Facebook: you can use the chat and messaging features to connect with your partner throughout the day.  You can share quick updates, give reminders to each other, and definitely flirt with one another.



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Marta Rocha

About the Author: Marta Rocha is a Mental Health Counselor. Marta is fluent in Portuguese, Spanish and English. Marta Rocha is specialized in the areas of Marriage Counseling, Family Issues, Stress Management, Leadership Training, Anxiety, Depression, Sports Psychology, Grief, and Substance Abuse & Addictions. Marta Rocha has 12 years of experience in sales & marketing, advertising, promotions, management, and professional development. Her professional affiliations are with the American Counseling Association, and the American Association of Christian Counselors.

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